I was just browsing through my friend list on FB to send a link and this rather sudden realization struck me like a bolt out of the blue.
Almost everyone on my list was attached, in the process of being attached or already married.
When did the world turn into Noah’s ark with everyone coming in two by two. And was I really sleeping through this apocalypse .
Here I am, 24 years old, reasonably attractive, sufficiently smart but bombarded with the oft repeated question- “Are you seeing someone? No, really?! That cant be true.”
To which I respond- No I like to hide my relationship status so that I can enjoy attention from and have tempestuous flings with random strangers.
My point being – why is it such a big deal if I am single. Why is my dating history of as much significance (if not more ) as my qualifications.
I am single as I choose to be single.
Don’t get me wrong- I am neither an avid feminist nor am I embittered by a past relationship.
I really do enjoy seeing people in love but I am willing to wait for the biggest cliché in the book – the elusive ‘right one’.
Its not entirely the majority population’s fault for being pro-relationship- generations are fed on candy floss movies about knights in shining armour and lovey dovey songs that hum happily ever after. We just subconsciously get conditioned into believing we are not good enough if we have not yet found someone to be with.
Here’s what others out there need to know- being single can be ‘sunny side up’. It’s a matter of perspective and here’s mine-
1) You own yourself, your time, your decisions, your opinions. A lot of friends I know lose their own identity in relationships. When your single- your always on a path of self discovery.
2) You do not have to deal with someone else’s grumpy/ moody personalities.
3) You do not waste precious time stroking the fragile and insatiable male ego.
4) You enjoy free drinks, complimentary desserts and less waiting time in queues- Men have an unmistakable radar that can sense when you are single and automatically become very generous.
5) You can have as many male friends without having to constantly justify yourself or tie anyone a ‘raakhi’ just to announce how platonic a friendship can be.
6) You are allowed to be totally selfish- It is OK if you spend your whole paycheque on yourself.
7) You can snicker when you see couples fighting in public places ( or the more commonplace type - couples who go through an entire dinner without speaking a direct word to each other)
8) You do not have to worry about other girls. This also transalates into being in a space where your not jealous or constantly looking over your shoulder.
9) The world is always your oyster- You can flirt, you can date, the possibilities being boundless.
10) Every day can be Girls Night Out (which is way more fun than Guys Night Out- guys night out is just ‘gang of girls meeting up and chatting over beer and maybe poker’)
11) You can watch as many cheesy romantic chick flicks without being pressurized to watch football or play Xbox.
12) You can stay home on a Saturday night if you want to.
13) Last but not the least- By default, you end up spending quality time with your loved ones i.e family, friends, etc (basically people you take for granted while in a relationship)
Disclaimer of Opinion: The irony in this whole scenario is that none of these things matter once you meet the person who sweeps you off your feet. Love is indeed blind to logic!
All I want to read, understand and agree to is the 'Disclaimer' ;)
ReplyDeleteDo u want me comment on this one . . definately not for the guys right ??? . . ;)
ReplyDeleteGood one Priyanka.. i don't enjoy most blogs but this one is great! and u have a talent for writing.. i didnt know that.. good job! :)
ReplyDeleteClassic Pika !
ReplyDeleteLove the typical Pika purple background !
Waiting for the next blog :-D
sarcastic beeyatch! :) Much as I hate to admit it....I quite liked your take on "relationships" as such....!
ReplyDeletehaha ! a nice read ! i enjoyed the surprise ending!
ReplyDeletei loved it...and yes u have a super talent..which engaged me to read till the end..excellent take on singlehoood and me too waiting for the next blog...
ReplyDeleteSooo true!! :) Again..absolutely loved reading your post! Good Job!
ReplyDeleteBRILLIANT!! lol!!!
ReplyDeleteSuperbly written and I love the pink!
Witty, acute, insightful and laced with humour!!
I like, I like!!!!